I have never liked making new year’s resolutions. There’s something so rigid about ‘resolutions’, which also implies that there is something seriously wrong with my life that requires fixing (ok, maybe getting a bit defensive here LOL). What seems even worse was realising at the end of the year that none of the resolutions stuck, which meant same old problems and perhaps new ones that all required even more resolutions. Yikes!
When I was younger and more idealistic, I probably made a few of these and then invariably forgot about them before the end of January arrived. In light of this futility, I haven’t made a resolution in at least 15 years and I’m not about to start (and fail) again. However, I have been thinking about how this year could be different for myself and our family.
As an alternative, I’ve come up with a tiny list of GOALS that I plan to achieve in 2017. Perhaps it’s just semantics but ‘goals’ sounds more achievable and a little less intimidating. Having a goal also implies an improvement and that’s pretty encouraging, isn’t it? So rather than changing something that’s negative, this list is about stepping outside of my comfort zone as well as creating new experiences with TT.
Our first proper holiday together
Surely this goal requires no incentive or encouragement! TT is finally at an age where she fully comprehends us and the things that are happening around her. She can also remember places, people and specific details, so it’s an excellent time to embark on family holidays. Truth be told, I need a proper holiday of my own. The last (and only) time we took a real break was when TT was just under a year old. We met my husband’s cousin and his family in Bali for the daddies’ 35th birthdays. And that seems like ages ago!
Since then, we’ve relocated to two different countries and when we had time off, we were back in Singapore or Australia for a short reunion with family. Well, we’re planning to make a special holiday this year and of course I’m bloody excited!! I’ve already told TT we’re not carrying her everywhere, so she has to either walk or sit in her stroller (which she hasn’t used in 1.5 years). Hmpph, I’ll let you know whether that’s achieved! But the holiday is definitely a goal that we can easily strike off the list.
Learning a new skill on my own
I somehow feel that my brain matter has been wilting a little over the past three years. My days revolve around routines, planning play-dates and activities for my child and waiting for her bedtime. Since TT was born, I haven’t had as much time for myself as before. Till she was 2+, she was with me almost 24/7. But with her going to nursery and now pre-kindy, I get the mornings to myself. These hours are so precious for running errands, keeping house, keeping fit and keeping up with my friends.
Settling into a new country with a family is tough, and I think I’ve found my rhythm. So it’s time to try something that I haven’t done before. I do need ideas though, so throw them out to me! My husband reckons that I should finally learn to swim. Yes, I can’t swim. Blame my sister and a big Alsatian dog for a childhood experience that makes me stay far away from anything other than shallow water. I’m still a little hesitant about this, because surely I can find a learning skill that’s a little less terrifying (to me) this year?
The Year of Giving
In the UAE, 2017 has been declared as the “Year of Giving” and this has given me pause for reflection. I have so many things in my life that I am thankful for. I am blessed with a comfortable life. We reside in a safe and beautiful country. I have a loving family, and a few amazing friends. Surely I can offer a bit of myself to make a change in someone else’s life? I have a whole year to achieve this goal and I honesty intend to find a way to contribute to this Year of Giving.
So how has January 2017 been treating you so far? Sending my very best for all your wishes, aims, resolutions or goals.
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